Self-awareness, mindfulness, consciousness, or meditation – all these are similar terms. Self-awareness is a good way to realize the link between your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

Simple mindfulness technique

Just watch yourself and know what is going on in your mind and body, and how thoughts make you feel and react as a result. Pay attention, know what your body needs – it gives you feedback all the time.

On what is good for you and what is not. It sheds light on the mind and Ego’s aversive effects. If you always know what you feel within, if you can figure out what you need at the moment and are able to express it, you are a great communicator and a fully conscious/mindful human being.

When you silence the mind, you are about to realize how powerful, whole, and free you are; you realize you have everything you need here and now at your reach.

You come to realize how long you have been driving around in life, blindfolded by your Mind and Ego.

Furthermore, when you shut down the thinking and start to feel your own presence, you become intensely alive, you awake to your senses, and the whole universe lives in you, through you. You feel at one with the universe and everything that surrounds you and I don’t mean to sound cliché here, I simply speak from first-hand experience.

It’s a state of being attainable through feeling your inner body’s energy.

Just by simply being and feeling from within can lead to a radical transcendental experience.

You sublimate into life’s energy and become flowing energy as a permanent state, or progressively achievable through practice, depending on your courage, strength, and wisdom to let it all go and surrender completely to this pure state of being.

Essentially, the mind should be restrained to process things as they are and not how they should be.

The mind “should” be restrained to process only things that can be changed by you. To find a solution here and now to an identified problem. If you can fix it, then figure out a way. If you cannot, why worry about it?

All the rest of your mental activity is a complete waste of time. Junk material.

Keep in mind that if you cannot change it, you can only let it go.

But if really and objectively you judge you can change it, face and deal with it by taking small steps. Break it down into small, feasible tasks, so it no longer seems all so overwhelming. The first step is the hardest. The following ones flow once you make the decision to tackle the identified problem – the most important word in change is “begin”. Indeed, once you begin, it is always harder psychologically to give up your decision, because you have already invested time and effort in planning the steps and working out a solution.

Once you take the most significant step, relax and trust the process. Rome was not built in a day. Nor will important changes be. In conclusion, the mind, when used consciously, can be an extraordinary tool. It is capable of creating beautiful realities and futures. Imagination is key.

When we use the mind with full presence and control what enters and develops in it, we turn it from our bullying Master into our Servant.

It is vital to watch the mind and protect it from external events, more specifically from reacting to anything that is going on out there and in there (your mind). Unsupervised thoughts have a powerful potential: they trigger a chain reaction of feelings and subsequent behaviors in a harmful out-of-control fashion. It all goes very quickly. Become aware of this. This, specifically, can cause permanent damage to relationships and sabotage what you really care about. Be aware of how your mind reacts and arbitrarily interprets others’ behavior or words.

If you are reacting to someone else’s words and reactions, pause, take a deeeeep breathhhhhh, double check with the person what is really meant/intended if at all possible, and decide if it’s worthwhile polluting your inner energy by reacting to it.

Another Super Powerful Tip when you get triggered by something is: Pause, Breath Deep, and ask yourself: “what is this emotions teaching me?” Put your hand on the heart and you have it…..right there. The inner wisdom soothing answer. Listen & Tune in each time in this manner and you’ll go a very long way.

Nothing really is worth it when you aim for self-control. Fundamentally, thoughts, people, and situations are powerless without your reaction and that’s where your whole power lies.

Why are Thoughts not Real and Should not be Acted Upon?

As explained earlier, automatic thoughts result from a biased mind. From a virtual representation of the world and ourselves, based on past, social, and cultural experiences. Your reality is not someone else’s reality. Ultimately, everyone misses out not only on the actual reality but also on truly meeting each other as long as we humans live in our own minds. We are autistic individuals, in a circus, thinking we are communicating and relating to each other. We enter relationships expecting that the other can read our mind, accusing them of doing certain things on purpose, comparing the past with the present all the time, expecting them to be or act a certain way or hoping they will change eventually so they can fit into our own world representation, mold of values, preferences, and life visions.

The mind is the collective insanity of human beings. It’s the common illness that unites us in our tragic human condition and separates us at the same time. Relationships are hard, trusting others is hard, life is hard because we live in our minds. Because our reality clashes with what is in our mind and its unrealistic expectations. Realize this fundamental thing: people love us or hate us and this has nothing to do with us. Indeed, people project on us their own reality or their own dream.

We typically and (unintentionally) activate in them a dream they had once in their internal world or remind them of traits present but denied and rejected in themselves. This is called projection. The stronger our reaction to someone is, the more we are projecting. Everything that unfolds ever after they meet us is not so much dependent upon what we do or say than it is on their own mental processes and ongoing internal representations. Nevertheless, this does not exclude responsibility for our own behavior nor the high benefits of effective communication – we must learn to communicate our personal experience only, rather than projecting unconsciously our world and expectations on others.

This insight, once reached, will depress your Ego who will do anything to refute this truth as it is highly indigestible. After all, you have worked all your life to preserve and feed the idea of your identity, i.e. of your (false) Self. This realization will inevitably kill your Ego’s reasons to exist; it’s an immediate death sentence. A death sentence to the idea of Self and its actual value and impact on others, in our physical world of form, illusions and appearances. Well, let me tell you … Great! That is extraordinary news because when your Ego dies, you finally start living.


Deconstructing the idea of Self, the idea of a separate entity from everything that surrounds you, is your life’s mission and journey. An illusion cannot be maintained for long in a world where everything is impermanent. Your Ego is also subject to this universal law and will eventually crash with maturity, grief, loss, or near-death experiences. Look forward to these experiences because they will set you free. They will shed light onto what you really are and what life is all about.

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“Who am I?” The never-ending human preoccupation. The search of a lifetime. Do you know who you are? Do you think you know? How do you define yourself? Which criteria do you base this on? How do you figure it out? Are you content with “yourself”, or are you finding it hard living with yourself? Are you disliking or constantly criticizing yourself? Do you love, yet other times hate yourself? Whoever you think you are, or others think you are, everybody’s wrong. Who you are, underneath the image you are projecting to your consciousness and your surroundings, cannot be grasped by thoughts nor others’ judgements. Who you are has nothing to do with your history, achievements, physical assets, or any personality attributes. On a deeper level, you are no-one. Don’t get me wrong, I mean no offense; on the contrary. It’s rather good news and you will soon find out why.

First of all, I would like you to understand that who you “think” you are, the self, is a mental construct, a fabrication of a biased and profoundly conditioned mind. The concept of Self, as a separate individual, is an illusion of your Ego. Not only is it a concept strongly and unconsciously reinforced by our western societies (collective insanity) through values such as individualism, identification with social and professional status, competition, performance, and consumerism, but more substantially it is a result of your early social and cultural conditioning. You are falsely identifying with cultural definitions of self, your past, and the world of form: which is a world of gain and loss, of constant change and impermanence.

You have formed a False Self-concept, a representation of yourself and the world, an internalized virtual reality based on early childhood experiences and socialization processes. Your mind has become conditioned as a consequence of these experiences.

The Ego is a representation of the False Self formed as a result of early psychological wounds and resulting external achievements and failures, all integrated unconsciously as part of Self.

Who you are is not to be found in mind processes, nor in your past, nor in your future achievements, and even less so in others’ perception of you. Who you are is to be found within yourself through self-awareness. (More on this later).

What Psychology Says

In the field of psychology, the concept of False Self was first introduced by Winnicott. He drew on different psychoanalytical theories to explain the False Self as being a defense mechanism built unconsciously and designed to (over)protect the True Self. This unconscious process often results in emotional problems such as feeling empty or “phoney” inside, inauthentic, not “fitting in”, not belonging, alienated to self and others while “other people’s expectations become of overriding importance, overlaying or contradicting the original sense of self”.

Winnicott ( in “Ego Distortion in Terms of True and False Self” ) argued that the False Self begins to develop in infancy, as a defense against an environment that felt unsafe or overwhelming because of a lack of sufficient attuned caregiving. As a matter of fact, the False Self confuses your sense of identity and your actual capacities.

Who you think you are today, you will not be tomorrow. What you think today that you would be capable of doing, or not, in the future is a gamble, not a certainty.

Yet, many of us are instantly and unhesitantly ready to bet about certain things; i.e. “I would never do such or such thing – ever.” Or you may firmly state, “I would never lie about how much I earn to impress someone” and find yourself one day doing it. Do not delude “yourself”: you are capable of doing anything and everything, in all shapes and forms, in all positive and negative aspects – at any given time. Your False Self is not as coherent and “perfect” as your Ego likes to think or to lure you into thinking. In fact, you have already done things you thought you would never do. You may have already lied, cheated, betrayed, acted out, judged, condemned, used your physical assets to influence, been “superficial”, or spoken badly (of others), and trust me, you will do it again without even realizing it. You’re better off recognizing right now, before you meet another crashing disillusion (about yourself and others), that there is no such thing as the Self. There are only different contexts, social roles we play at each moment of our lives, with different people, in various functions we hold – always acting differently and according to each person and situation.

As time goes on, you discover every day new facets of your potential and fluctuating nature. Yet, when you become too rigid on ideas about who you think you are, or about what you think you can or cannot do, you prevent yourself not only from connecting authentically to others, but also from excelling in all different life fields. You simply become focused on results, compare yourself inappropriately and inaccurately to others. And the outcome? You live inauthentically, at half of your true potential, with mediocre results. However, when you choose to focus on the process, when you bring the being into the doing and you are melting completely into your respective role/function/activity/interaction, you will excel beyond your Ego’s expectations. Simply because just being, soaking into the present moment, is unleashing your real potential and surrendering to your true self.

Who you actually are cannot be thought but only felt by surrendering to the present moment. Since in this manifest world your idea of Self is a mental artefact, in order to evolve and free yourself from pain and disillusions, you must observe your mind.

The Ego- The Problem of the Mind

If you pay attention to your mind, you will be able to recognize that most of its activity is causing unnecessary suffering. Suffering is essentially and uniquely created by your mind, not by an actual external event. An event is always neutral. What creates suffering is the interpretation you make of it. What you let into your mind and body and ruminate over is the cause of suffering and not the actual event. It’s the attachment to a preconceived idea, of how things or people or a situation should be, according to your internal and virtual representation of the world, that causes pain. The reality just is as it is, with no mental labels, pure and raw: you give it an interpretation because you need to label it.

Labeling is a need to control, to categorize, and is precisely what causes pain or happiness – depending on how your interpretation fits into your internal world and how it satisfies your inner interpretation. Emotional pain is therefore caused by your Ego’s (or conditioned mind’s) expectations, by being attached to an imagined outcome and rejecting what really is. Suffering happens indeed when Ego’s hopes or expectations have not been met. When reality is different from what we wanted.

Wanting is Ego’s nature and its principal flaw. The Ego never wants what is already there; the Ego always wants something else. Ultimately wanting causes inevitably harm.

This occurs either by losing what we already have (as not appreciated, cultivated, or attended to), while chasing that something else, or by missing out on all the present opportunities along the way, too focused on new achievements. In essence, there is nothing wrong in the intention of wanting. What is wrong is being attached to an outcome. Let me break it down to you: most things turn out differently from what we planned in the first place because what happens to us in life is mostly uncontrollable and unpredictable. We act in interaction and in inter-correlation to all that is. Most of the time things do not depend exclusively on us but on a multitude of causes. Absolutely everything in this world is interconnected and multicausal.

Nevertheless, we spend most of our lives power-delusional and in deep suffering – thinking we have full control. We live in a pure madness: the madness of the Ego that is delusional about control. In reality there are only two things that we can control: what enters our mind and how we respond to external events or situations. What meaning we make of it and what actions we take to improve the presenting situation and related feelings. Resisting the reality as it is and the fact that we have little control over things is like hitting your head against a brick wall. It hurts. And eventually, you will get knocked out.

Your Thoughts are not Who you Are – Am I my mind?

The Mind – A Beautiful Tool to Use with Awareness and Moderation
The very nature of the mind is to generate automatic thoughts fuelled by unconscious core beliefs, related fears, and past experiences. It operates on auto-pilot mode, ruminating incessantly thoughts about the past or about the future. Just like the ripples of a lake, most of its activities are wavering and are at best a waste of time, or at worst, detrimental to you and others.

Reviewing, chewing on, analyzing, and dwelling on past scenarios are all mental processes relying on one of the most fallible components of our brain: the memory. The memory is notoriously and scientifically known as highly unreliable whether it concerns “happy” memories or distressful events (N.B. I am not referring here to particularly traumatic events that can indisputably mark the memory and leave accurate, detailed remembrance; we may leave this topic to the side for the moment.) Nevertheless, from a neurobiological point of view, research has demonstrated our memory’s limits. Each time we mentally return into the past, we distort that past reality. We select only a few elements, out of their context, and during the retrieval and analyzing process we involuntarily modify, emphasize, diminish, or exaggerate them at Ego’s convenience. This applies for the recent past as much as for the distant. We always see it with a distorted filter.

Memory is certainly unreliable, selective and influenced by unconscious core beliefs and early personal stories; therefore, it is wise to avoid using your mental energy for processing the past.

Why would you want to go there anyway? Why is the question to ask yourself at all times: what am I looking for in the past? What is the purpose of my current thoughts? Can they serve me in any way today or in the future? How can I use them to my benefit? If you are dwelling on past experiences in order to take something away, to learn and/or grow from it, then go for it.

But keep in mind you are dealing with outdated material and it may be wiser to just let go of it; most of its relevancy and accuracy has been lost. Staying fully aware of the present moment avoids having to learn lessons and make mistakes you may regret later on.

On the other hand, if you like to live in the past by habit, self-indulgence, and the taste of this oh-soreassuring and familiar drug (i.e. place), then you will miss out on your life. You may be attached to your personal story and even receive social positive reinforcement for your victim role. These are impediments to growth and change. The more you identify with your past, your story, your culture, and your origins, the more you live in the dark, under your insane Ego’s conditioning, never meeting your true self. On a larger scale, symbolically, you can use the past to create meaning and transform your life and past experiences into something new, empowering for you and for others. When you do that, you are evolving.

If you want to go deep about your meaning, note that I talk about it in detail in my book (chapter “On your deepest fears”, How to find Meaning in your Life).


So in summary, daydreaming about the future, planning or worrying about it, is an equally useless practice: the future rarely turns out the way we plan it, although it does turn out the way we fear it. The ongoing feeling of worry attracts precisely our imagined scenario. Thinking, planning, daydreaming are all processes
“The past is where you learn the lesson, the future is where you apply it, don’t give up in the middle”—Unknown.

Again, related directly to our history: they are simply improved versions of our past story. A more appealing satisfying movie of our past lives. Ultimately, the quality of your present will determine the quality of your future.
So, basically, when you follow the mind, you are always living outside Reality.

The mind cannot live into the present.

If you wish to keep both feet on the ground you must become able to go beyond the mind, beyond your Ego and the False Self, to capture Reality as it is. You must emerge above all your senses and observe them neutrally in order to understand what the mind really does to you. In order to gain insight into how your mind’s natural propensities enslave you into a virtual world, into fear and into pushing you to feel and act destructively, you must watch the mind and not live in or be ruled by it.

The quieter your mind and your surroundings are, the more you can hear.

Make space. Make time. Learn to Meditate & Go within, as all answers that you seek are not to be found on a intellectual mind-based level. Live mindfully. The most helpful practice for me has been to work with some of the most powerful guided meditations for spiritual awakening. I have recorded them and improved them for you in my Guided Mediations CD/M3 Album (find it in “Shop”).

I hope you enjoy them and that they will impact you as much as they changed me. Look forward to hearing your feedback! share share share.

Much Love,


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Essentials for HyperSensitive Persons (HPS). How to know if you are one & how to thrive


After my psychology studies, I found out rather by chance that I was a HSP as per Dr Aaron research and I’m wondering how come I didn’t know about it during my psychology studies? In 10 years of psychology studies no one mentioned Dr Aaron’s study and her astonishing results on the so called ‘hyper-sensitive’ persons.  Incredible.

What does it mean to by a hypersensitive person?

In our society this is often linked to being weak, to be too sensitive seems to be a problem, never a quality. The prejudice around this term has made many children and younger adults feel ashamed or inadequate for feeling too much. Buried feelings and masking real emotions & thoughts are often a daily combat for a HSP. By fear of societal rejection or prejudice, we hold back, we keep it all in and we may hide away from the world, happily in some sort of cave because out there is not safe and we may feel too much, too quickly and get overwhelmed to a point of struggling to get back to balance again.

I thought something was “wrong” with me for a very long time. I cry for nothing. I also laugh for nothing.  I read others people’s mood / energy in a split second and I when I enter the room my whole body feels the heaviness or the lightness (rather rarely) of a place.

Yes, empaths are hypersensitive in a first place. It is very common that HPS are also Gifted Children (IQ superior to 130) and often wrongly diagnosed with HD/AD (Hyperactivity Disorder or Attention Deficit Disorder).

70 % seem to be introverts and 30% extraverts.  The latter love to be around people and large circle of friends but still need a lot of time for themselves to recharge, process, digest and quiet the mind (constantly stimulated) .

There are as many boys as girls with this trait but males will be harder to identify because of societal conditioning and cultural expectations ‘to be a man’ for example.

Traits of Hypersensitve Persons (HSP)

In a summary lets overview some traits of HSP

Main traits include:

  • More easily overwhelmed by sensory stimuli such as bright lights, strong smells, coarse fabrics, or loud noises
  • More easily irritated when you have a lot to do in a short amount of time
  • Avoidant of violent movies, conflicts and TV shows
  • Need to withdraw during busy days to places where you can have privacy and relief from the chaos
  • Make it a high priority to arrange your life to avoid upsetting / overwhelming situations
  • Sensitivity to fine scents, tastes, sounds, or works of art
  • Have a rich and complex inner life
  • Empaths
  • Depth of information-processing.
  • Highly observant of details
  • Very good memory
  • If you identify with most points, also note:
  • HPS traits are normal: they are found in over 20% of the population–too many to be a disorder, but not enough to be well understood by the majority of those around you.
  • HSP have unique genes, so it is innate. Biologists have found it in over 100 species (and probably there are many more) from fruit flies, birds, and fish to dogs, horses, and primates. This trait reflects a certain type of survival strategy, being observant before acting. The brains of  (HSPs) actually work a little differently than others’. To learn more about this, see Research.
  • Sense of awareness is more acute. This is mainly because your brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. So even if you wear glasses, for example, you see more than others by noticing more.
  • You are also more easily overwhelmed. If you notice everything, you are naturally going to be overstimulated when things are too intense, complex, chaotic, or new for a long time so you may need immediate quiet time. (*excluding PTSD & previous trauma causes)
  • This trait is not a new discovery, but it has been misunderstood. Because HSPs prefer to look before entering new situations, they are often called “shy.” But shyness is learned, not innate. In fact, 30% of HSPs are extroverts, although the trait is often mislabeled as introversion. It has also been called inhibitedness, fearfulness, or neuroticism. Some HSPs behave in these ways, but it is not innate to do so and not the basic trait.
  • Sensitivity is valued differently in different cultures. In cultures where it is not valued, HSPs tend to have low self-esteem as they are told to be “too sensitive” which leads them to feel abnormal.

Clear Neurological Differences

HPS represent indeed between 15 to 20% of the population with a clear difference in the brain functioning. So there is a genetic factor that differentiates them from the larger population and they are born with this trait very visible on IRM scans when processing information ( HPS brains fire up widely when exposed to a stimuli whereas non-HPS have only a few specific parts activated when processing the stimuli) . See below an image of this activation.

Why is it important to know if you are a Hypersensitive Person?

For me it has been very relieving to know I was one. Here is why:

-it helps you understand your needs personally and professionally speaking

-It helps you understand your general functioning, so you can welcome these extra-stimulations and learn to manage them more effectively.

-it helps you join associations & like-minded fellows for support, co-creation, socialization and a sense of belonging.

The Criteria for Hypersensitive Persons

Before going any further lets clarify the 4 D.O.E.S criteria for being a HSP as per Aaron’s study. To know if an adult person is Hypersensitive you may look for these indications:


D for Depth of processing.

Does this person often come up with unusual, creative ideas? Is this person unusually conscientious (aware of consequences of failing to do things well)? Does this person prefer to decide things slowly, mull things over? Do they seem to think in detail about things and connect different ideas quickly? Are his or her decisions often right? (well anticipated)

 You might also ask if this person has thought about the long term goals of their part of the organization, or why something did or didn’t work. If the person feels safe to comment honestly, and many HSPs will be cautious about this, you will probably hear a surprisingly long, detailed but logical answer.


E for Easily Overstimulated. Have you noticed that this person is more easily stressed by noise, chaotic situations, deadlines, or working in groups (true more for introverted HSPs)? Seeks quiet spots? Prefers to work alone or at home? You might ask if the person would benefit from a quieter working environment or more flexible deadlines. Outside the workplace, does this person hesitate to make plans or turn down invitations? It could be because he or she just needs more downtime.


E for Emotionally reactive. Does this person react strongly to feedback, both positive and negative–perhaps over compensate and, for example, rewrite an entire report when only some of it needed changing? Has she or he ever cried in a meeting? Does this person have considerable empathy for others, or know more than most about other workers’ personal problems? Does this person, compared to others, worry more about how someone is reacting to a negative event, give more positive feedback, and generally attend to group morale? Does he or she become angry, curious, sad, anxious, or joyful sooner than others? You might also ask directly how they feel about something.


S for Sensitive to subtle stimuli. Does this person seem to notice things that others don’t? Does he or she arrange work spaces with special care, such as adjusting the lighting? Comment on others’ dress or small changes in the environment or weather? You might say you are looking for people who notice details, and for fun ask the person something like the color of the chairs in the meeting room.

Other Subtle Stuff

You will still wish to validate your hunch, so perhaps a few direct questions could be asked without raising alarm. Try “I feel xx–do you too?” “I hate noisy places. How about you?” “I can’t stand it when people don’t think ahead. (Are rude. Are late.) Does that bother you?” You would think everyone would say yes, but non-HSPs won’t say “yes, me too,” to more than one or two. After a string of agreements on these sorts of things, the two of you will begin to see your underlying similarity.

If you are a parent of HSP

For parents of HP I recommend visiting the website of Dr Aaron – the hypersensitive person as this is discussed there and there are a few resources for parents.

But I would outline the following important points above all, so!

What to do?

Children HPS

Welcome childrens’ emotions –  including the negative ones – as they are. Be there, listen, make space for them. HPC feel the pain more deeply (emotional (empathically or personally) AND physical) so let them overcome it in their own timing.  

Do not push them to be doing something all the time. Its OK to do nothing and they highly need it.

Do not worry if they act like ‘loners’. They prefer usually fewer friends and fewer social opportunities. They get overwhelmed by too many people.

Be careful with screaming and loud voices, noises and emotions. They can be traumatized by them and become fearful / anxious / depressed later. Not to mention using other forms of violence like physical abuse or emotional abuse that are severely detrimental to their development.

Teach them Boundaries. Its Ok to think for yourself and speak up! They do not have to be nice or too polite. Its ok to be honest and they highly need it. Authenticity is part of their highest values, praise it. And its OK to be self-caring and think about themselves first. They tend to have too much empathy for others and as a result sacrifice their own needs.

Help them embrace their hobbies. As odd as they may be. It will create their resourcing bubble.

Encourage creative activities. They excel in these and can be really outstanding if you believe in them unconditionally.

Accept their unconventional ways to study or to behave in class. Structured settings make them suffer a great deal and schools are designed in this manner. Support them in their needs, criticism, restlessness and sometimes acting out. Unconditional support will make them much further than school will ever do.

Adults HPS

If you are like me a HSP you may look for ways to be less sensitive and overwhelmed, especially if you have not learned it in your childhood or had knowledgeable adults around you to support you with this unique and beautiful trait.

I say it’s a beautiful trait and not a ‘curse’ because this sensitivity allows us to see things others do not see, to read others quickly, to process deeply, to be creative, imaginative and innovative, to be happy for the small things and find joy as quickly as we find pain. Its quite of a ride! It’s an intense life and a fast ride! But I personally better be alive in that manner than somewhere in the (dull) middle. I take it as a blessing because this way of feeling intensely makes also very grateful for the gifts of life. For this amazing beauty we find on Mother Earth.

It is a gift for Humanity to be empathic and sensitive in a world that gets more and more cold and disconnected. Ruled by machines, robots, competition, fear and low vibrations. If we work on maintaining the frequency high (aka looking after OURSELVES FIRST) we make a huge difference for this planet. Huge. Like a domino effect we impact every life we touch.

HPS are the Hope for Humanity. Literally the FUTURE of Humanity.

And globally we start to see it and appreciate it more and more. Skilled employers see the potential in these out of ordinary beings as they learn about HP-S more as well. If they do not know, please educate them.

It is really your responsibility to state your needs at interviews, to people in your life, to your colleagues etc, and to let them know how you function. Self-assertion comes often once we burned out but you don’t need to reach the rock bottom to start practice it already, it will save you a lot of time and unnecessary pain. Trust me, I learned it the hard way.

Things that work best for Hypersenstive Persons


Meditation is not a relaxation practice. It’s an awakening practice. It’s a tool to be grounded aka Present.

Learn to channel your energy. A meditator is someone who masters their vital energy. Their prana.

Their mental energy. Learn to stay still and feel into your breath, your body, your root chakra, your heart or simply in the beautiful space of your own presence. Feel the Here. Feel the Now. Feel with all your senses what is here and now.

Listen to the silence. Smell the air, the rain, the foods. Feel the ground under your (bear) feet. Bring your awareness home (inside your temple) or to your garden (outside your temple). But just be Here & Now with great alertness.

Let your body speak and LISTEN.

Welcome ANY emotional with full acceptance and non-resistance. Is there, its ok, breath into it and ask yourself: what is this emotion teaching me right now?

Learning to Meditate is learning Emotional intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence fosters the following qualities:

Social skills, self-awareness, self-regulation and motivation.

Regular Connection to Nature & Animals

These must be the most grounding things a HPS can enjoy. The love for animals is often obvious too. If you can’t have pets, or regular nature/park walks bring plants into your home/room. Learn to care for them, to tune into them. Visit animal shelters, volunteer there, sponsor a shelter dog in a country. I have automatic monthly donations to Humane Society and another Shelter Association in Romania. It gives me joy when I see what they could do with my support. Go visit them regularly.

Alone time

 HPS need loads of it…to process & integrate new information and experiences, otherwise they get quickly overwhelmed. I work part-time and I can go 3 days in a row no speaking to anyone and being in my own company. I wasn’t always able to do that and you cant always do it, very true. But I would spend lots of time in Nature, or at the beach in my own bubble.

Parents are constantly solicited and get quickly drained, but a big part of their path is to learn imperfection, show vulnerability to children and talk about inner feelings and mental exhaustion. Children do not need perfect parents. They need real parents. The real world is imperfect and complex. When we teach reality with our own feelings, we teach true presence and conscious education. This is called good enough parenting in developmental psychology and is essential for a child to thrive as an adult. Be a role model of authenticity. With your children and with every single relationship in your life. You will definitely have more fulfilling relationships and it will be easier peopling (even for extraverts -HSP).

Say NO often

No to social gatherings, no to shallow events, no to invitations that feel like obligations, it’s OK to say NO. YOU first, remember??! Then you can be more caring if you feel recharged and gained your space but first YOU.

Mantras / Affirmations

Mental affirmations restructure the brain-wiring and helps you face the daily challenges in a few seconds, they are that magical. As soon as you give yourself the empowering talk- BANG! You can move mountains It creates momentum. It calms you. It gives you any mental space you need in an instant. And in the long term, if you stick with them for a while, it re-wires your brain for good.

See, the brain does know the difference between real and imagined. It activates the same neurological paths if you truly believe it and if you do not but just say it.

Words create thoughts. Thoughts create emotions and energy. Emotions are infinitely more powerful electrically than the mental energy. And Emotions create ACTIONS.

What you think, you become. Watch your inner self talk wisely…

Make a point to speak your favourite affirmations out aloud or in your mind as often as possible. I love Louise Hay Collection of Affirmations, use these to start with.


Being a Hypersensitive Person is a wonderful personality trait to have in our times. With time it gets better and better as we start to know ourselves and set Firm Boundaries and Priorities. We learn to assert our needs and educate others about how we function. Some will accommodate these needs, some will not. Decide if you want to be surrounded by such people. Remember you sole responsibility is to educate. To speak up. The rest you cannot control. Once you surrender expectation of self and others, you embrace your beautiful traits and sensitivity as a true Gift to the World and you start to shine your Light.

Embrace your HSP and you’ll create ripples of inspiration & motivation for other HSP (that you may not know they are too) who struggle to see the Light or stay on the surface.

We teach people best by who we are not by what we preach. Be that model!

Love always,


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